Let’s clear something up right away:
Using lube does not mean you aren’t turned on.
It doesn’t mean your body isn’t working.
It doesn’t mean your partner isn’t doing a good job.
And it definitely isn’t something reserved for menopause.
Honestly? Lube deserves way more credit.
Wet Does Not Always Equal Turned On
One of the biggest misconceptions about sex is that if a woman is aroused, her body should automatically produce plenty of natural lubrication.
Bodies are not that predictable.
You can be incredibly turned on and still not be very wet.
And you can sometimes have physical lubrication without actually feeling much desire.
Natural lubrication can change because of your menstrual cycle, hormones, stress, medications, breastfeeding, birth control, dehydration, perimenopause, menopause—and sometimes for no obvious reason whatsoever.
So let's stop using wetness as a report card for arousal.
Lube Isn't Just for When You're “Dry”
This is the part we wish more women knew.
You don't have to wait until sex is uncomfortable to reach for lube.
Lube reduces friction, and less unwanted friction can mean more comfortable, pleasurable touch.
That matters whether you're 22, 42, 62 or 82.
Even if your body produces plenty of natural lubrication, adding lube can change how stimulation feels.
Smoother.
Slipperier.
More comfortable.
More sensual.
And sometimes just plain better.
“But I Never Needed It Before…”
Cool.
You also probably didn't need reading glasses before you needed reading glasses. 😂
Bodies change.
Hormones change.
Medications change.
Stress changes.
Pregnancy and postpartum can change things.
Perimenopause and menopause can definitely change things.
Something changing doesn't mean something is wrong with you.
It may simply mean your body needs something different now.
Friction Isn't Always Your Friend
A little friction can feel fantastic.
Too much friction? Not so much.
When things aren't lubricated enough, sexual activity can become uncomfortable or irritating. That discomfort can also create a lovely little cycle nobody asked for:
Sex hurts → you start anticipating that it might hurt → your body has a harder time relaxing → sex becomes even less appealing.
Adding lubricant is one incredibly simple way to make things more comfortable.
And if you're regularly experiencing pain, burning, tearing, bleeding or significant dryness, don't just keep adding more lube and suffering through it. Talk with a healthcare provider. There may be something else going on that deserves attention.
Your Toys Like Lube Too
Using lubricant with toys can make a huge difference.
It can help toys glide more comfortably and make insertion easier, but it can also make external stimulation feel completely different.
Just remember: not every lubricant works with every toy or condom.
Water-based lubricant is generally the easiest all-around option and is compatible with most toys and condoms.
Silicone lubricant lasts much longer and can be fantastic when you want extra slip, but check the manufacturer's instructions before using it with silicone toys.
Oil-based products can damage latex condoms, so compatibility matters.
When in doubt, check the label—or ask us.
We genuinely don't mind talking about lube.
It's kind of our thing.
And Yes, Lube Can Make Good Sex Better
This might be the biggest reason to use it.
You don't need to have a problem to use lube.
You don't need to be dry.
You don't need to be older.
You don't need a doctor's note.
You can simply use it because it feels good.
Try different amounts. Try different textures. Try adding it earlier instead of waiting until you need it.
Make it part of intimacy rather than treating it like emergency equipment you secretly grab from the nightstand.
Because lube isn't admitting defeat.
It's upgrading the experience.
And we're very much in favor of upgrades.
— Please
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